Mim goes next. “One piece that makes my story easier is that . . . two of my sisters were single. I really don’t have any trauma with family and singleness, because I was not the only one.
“For me, the hardest part of singleness is that whole what do you do with what you think God called you to do and be — and it doesn’t happen?”
She explains that when she was 17 or 18, she read a book about John S. Kauffman. When she read the part about his ordination, she had a clear sense that God was calling her. “That’s what God has for me. I’m going to be a pastor’s wife.”
Martha asks, “How did you come to the place to accept giving up what you thought God wanted you to do?”
Mim responds, “I’ve lived for 62 years now; it’s a process.’
She then describes what happened to her when she was in graduate school in Cincinnati, studying counseling. She was in a counseling practicum, which involved intense group interaction with her peers: other grad students, who included several Catholics and Lutherans.
They were interested in her story. “I’ll never forget the one sister said, ‘Mim, you’re like a ship that’s left the anchor down, and it’s keeping you from moving.’
“In other words, she was saying, ‘You have to really die to it.’ The anchor was really cut that day.” This didn’t end her desire for a husband, but “something happened with that.”
Another turning point for Mim came when she was invited to share her story at a chapel at a small Bible college. Reluctantly, she accepted. In her talk, she mentioned reading the book about Kauffman and having to give up the idea that being a pastor’s wife was her calling.
A week later, one of the men who invited her to speak at the chapel sent her an email, saying, ‘Mim, look at who you are. Look at what you’ve done. You are the pastor!’
“And I thought,’Oh, maybe this was plan A all along, and I’m not in plan B anymore.'”